February 2012
17 posts
Do Your Part and HELP
Take a moment to sign this petition that will hopefully alert President Obama to the seriousness of human trafficking happening in the US and all over the world today. Please and thank you.
http://www.ijm.org/content/sign-your-name-stand-for-freedom
Age Schmage?
Every now and then, I’ll send out a feeler asking what I should write about to the people who follow me on Twitter or are a fan of Mad to Love on Facebook. I did this a couple of weeks ago and received an interesting response from an old friend of mine from Texas. She wanted to know my thoughts or views on people who date someone who is significantly older or younger than themselves. Admittedly, I...
She's Worthy of Goodness
This past week, I received a heartbreaking email from a young lady from Denmark named Rebekah. Within her correspondence, Rebekah mentioned realizing just how many young women had been sexually abused in some way or another. She then proceeded to ask if good guys care if a girl has the sort of “baggage” that comes with a sexually abused past. Were those girls worthy of a good, holy man who would...
Hey!
Did you know I’m on Twitter? Follow me at www.Twitter.com/Cory_Copeland. (correct link)
I’ll keep you entertained, guaranteed.
Thanks!
-C
A Jealous Heart
If there’s something I hate at all in this world, it’s the feeling of being jealous. We’ve all felt it. Our ears burn and our anger and imagination run amok. Someone has something we want, or have accomplished something we wanted to accomplish, and we feel as if our world has been set on fire.
I, for one, am bad about being jealous for the tiniest, fleeting of moments. I see another writer being...
Remember Me
There’s a rumbling amongst we rebels of this generation.
Forgoing the hard won ways of our fathers, and their fathers before them, we seem to crave for the notoriety of creation—building, painting, singing, writing; it’s become a means for us to be seen, to be noticed.
We drown in a world wrought with culture and the benign advantages of creative success. Overrun with the storied accomplishment...
How to Stay Married
Check out this post I wrote for Tamaraoutloud.com today!
5 tips to staying married. It’s funny!
http://tamaraoutloud.com/2012/02/17/guest-post-tips-to-staying-married/
When You Know, You Know
“When you know, you know. And when you don’t know, you still know.”
This is a saying I use frequently when I’m asked for relationship advice (I know; I’m surprised as you are). I think I came up with it myself, but considering the amount of movies, music, and television I ingest, I wouldn’t doubt that I subconsciously stole it from someone (as long as it wasn’t Nickelback…).
Regardless, this...
From the Archives: Being Single is Okay, OK?
For those alone on this day of St. Valentine. Enjoy and have a smile.
“Being Single is Okay, OK?”
http://wp.me/p1NmD4-1g
From the Archives: A Guide to Dating and Treating...
Sometimes we men need a reminder. This is that.
From the archives: “A Guide to Dating and Treating Women Right For Today’s Modern Male”
http://wp.me/p1NmD4-k
How to Get Over Your Ex (Part II)
Earlier this week, I wrote about what it takes to get over your ex after a breakup happens. That particular post covered the situation from the standpoint of the person who ended the relationship. Today, I aim to cover what it takes to get over your stinkin’ ex after they break up with you. It’s not an easy process, but it is possible. I am living (read: jaded) proof.
While the suggestions I’m...
How to Get Over Your Ex (Part I)
I’ve been writing on relationships for a little time now, and I’ve covered a lot of subjects. How to get boyfriend/girlfriend; how to lose a boyfriend/girlfriend, and even what women (seem to) want. And before today, I’ve yet to take a shot at addressing what it takes to get over a relationship—or more specifically, an ex. Why? I have no idea.
As I’ve mentioned a time or two (or twenty-seven),...
His Porn vs Your Worth
While it’s no secret that men and women are different, it’s even less of a secret that our species think differently. We approach situations from different analytical angles and come to our separate conclusions from opposite directions. Yes, we’ve all heard it a thousand times before: women are from Venus and men are from under a rock or Mars or something. Regardless of the metaphor, the truth...
From the Archives: S-s-s-sex
Sex is everywhere…especially within the Christian community.
http://wp.me/p1NmD4-49
Don't be "That" Guy
This week, I wrote and posted a piece on what not to do so a girl can avoid being “that” girl. The post was fairly well received and we all had a good laugh (except for “that” girl who was deeply offended…probably). But for me to focus solely on women in my harassment writing isn’t quite fair. Therefore, I decided to also write about what makes a fella be “that” guy.
Now, I have to admit that I’m...
Don't be "That" Girl
Every so often, when a young man is out and about, he’ll come across a certain type of young lady. Now, this type of female is a special breed. She isn’t born this way, but through different circumstances and—most likely—disappointments, she morphs into “that” girl. Odds are, you know who I’m referring to.
She’s the one that wants a man but can’t help driving them away. She doesn’t mean to; she...
January 2012
14 posts
Thoughts of a Divorced Christian
In today’s world, it can be fairly difficult to be a twenty-something Christian. Not only do we deal the normal pressures a young person faces (school, dating, sex, work, etc.), but we do so with certain labels stapled to us by a hardened world simply because we choose to believe the way we do. Getting to a place of personal comfort and acceptance can often times be difficult. Now, take all of...
What Women Want (Part II)
Every now and then, I like to write something that will garner a fair number of death threats. From the first part of this post on what women want, to my posts on how to get a boyfriend, to my attempt at addressing feminism; I’ve been known to stir the anger of women every now and then. This post will be no different.
I do this not because I’m a glutton for punishment, but because I like to help...
Moving On
Have you ever seen that magazine ad the Marines use? It has this guy trying to complete a pull-up while his face is contorted into this really gruesome look and sweat pours from every inch of his body. Beneath the sweating Marine, in supremely bold letters, is the tagline, “PAIN IS WEAKNESS LEAVING THE BODY”. You know the ad I’m talking about, right? It always catches my attention for a number of...
Everyday Grace
I hold a grudge like you wouldn’t believe. Like, I’m still upset about something that happened in 2nd grade and I’m almost twenty-seven. It’s a small part of me that I don’t particularly like, but it’s always been there, resting in my heart. And even though I’ve tried my hardest to correct it, still it remains. I realize how pathetic it sounds, but the truth is I have a hard time of forgiving...
How to Lose Your Boyfriend
Someway, somehow I’ve inferred that most of my relationships have ended with me getting dumped. As much as I enjoy a sympathetic look/hug/snuggle, I feel I should set the record straight; I’ve done my fair share of ending relationships. Not only that, but I’d say I’ve broken up with a girl about as many times as I’ve been dumped by one (and yet, I bet you still consider me to be the heel just...
Should Christians be Cussing?
Have you ever seen the classic Christmas film Home Alone? (Yes, it’s a classic.) I hope the answer is yes because that film should be a staple for every family’s movie viewing during the holidays. I mean, it’s a little kid getting the better of two middle aged, bumbling crooks, while also beating the living crap out of them. What’s not to love?
The best part of Home Alone isn’t Kevin McCallister...
Expectant Love by Jake Dudley
This guest post comes from my buddy, Jake Dudley. Jake is a writer and speaker who does a fantastic job of showing what God’s love is all about. You can find more of Jake’s writing on his blog at www.JakeDudley.tumblr.com. Also, follow him on Twitter at www.Twitter.com/JakeDudley. I’ll be back writing tomorrow. Thanks for reading. -C
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I love love.
Like I REALLY...
Our Purposeful Relationships by John Wise
Today’s guest post comes from my buddy, John Wise. John is a youth leader and speaker who truly seeks the heart of God in all he does. You can find more of John’s work on his blog www.JHWise.com. Enjoy. -C
I have 436 friends on Facebook. Now, I realize that this number is chump change compared to what some of you have, but let’s be honest; we don’t really have that many friends in...
How to Lose a Girlfriend
It’s said that we are to write what we know. And although I’ve taken the liberty to put together handy little guides about how to get a girlfriend or boyfriend in the past, my true expertise lies in knowing how to chase away someone special. Simply, I’ve been broken up with enough times to realize what I do wrong and what I do right. This here is what you should do if you want to not have a...
Be Loved
Much ado is made about love these days. Movies, songs, television shows, even commercials (every kiss begins with “K”, in case you weren’t aware…); love is everywhere. Finding love, keeping love, showing love, giving love…apparently love is trying to choke us to death simply to prove that it exists; and honestly, that’s fine. Love is a wonderful thing and every person should be blessed enough to...
Modesty vs. Feminism
Yesterday I posted a tweet that said, “Ladies, dressing provocatively not only discounts how you’re viewed, but it also attracts a lesser type of man. Modesty is hot. I promise.” Now, while a majority of the response was positive, there were a number of people who took offense to my message—even to the point of reckless accusations and my being called offensive names. Why? Apparently the tweet was...
Oh, Sex
As I’ve mentioned a time or two, I created a website called ToMyFutureSpouse.com where men and women can write anonymous love notes to their future spouse. It’s adorable. Really. Anyway, through the last 18 months, I’ve noticed that a certain type of note creeps through the inbox every now and then. It varies depending on the sender, but the message is basically this, “Do what I want, when I want,...
Hakuna Matata
Is there a certain type of person that just grates on your nerves? There’s one that drives me crazy in a way I’m not proud of (actually, there are about seven types of people that do that, but…you know…hakuna matata). And no matter where I go or what I do, they’re always around. It’s like they’re the zombies and I’m the last dude on earth. Yes, that’s exactly what they are; they’re zombies—the...
I Don't Pray
I don’t pray.
I’m a Christian—at least I claim to be—who doesn’t make a concerted effort to speak with the One whom he calls Savior. The saddest part of this confession is that not only do I realize that I don’t pray, but I also realize why I don’t pray.
It’s because I’m terrified of losing control of my own life—or what I feel is control. I feel that if I pray and become closer to God, then the...
December 2011
17 posts
How to Make Her Feel Special: Part 2
I like to think I would’ve enjoyed being born in the 30’s or 40’s. How simple things seemed to be, how people dressed, and how inexpensive everything was. That all seems wonderful to me; but then I remember they didn’t have iPhones or Twitter back then and I quickly change my mind.
Actually, now that I think about it, what I like most about those years are the movies. In films from that era, men...
Changing Who You Are
It’s no secret that I’ve had my (and your) fair share of relationships. I’ve been a husband, a boyfriend, a lover, and a plaything (not all at once, mind you…). I’ve fought for relationships that didn’t want to be saved, and I’ve given up on couplings that maybe just needed more effort. I’ve broken hearts and I’ve had my heart broken. Yet, as I look back over what went wrong during those times, a...
Christmas Love
I used to love Christmas. I really did. It was wonderful. Throughout the season, my two brothers and I would stay up late, waiting for it to snow even though we knew it wouldn’t (growing up in Texas has that one disadvantage). The Christmas season laced the air with magic and you could feel it all around. Despite the fact that we weren’t a wealthy family, my parents somehow always found a way to...
Do Soulmates Exist?
I wish you could’ve met my grandfather. He was an amazing man who was effortlessly cool like James Dean or Kerouac’s Moriarty. He worked tirelessly in the oil fields for over thirty years, and did so with a proud but quiet dignity. He wasn’t a complainer, nor was he lazy. My grandpa was a man I can proudly call “hero”. He gave continuously to his job, his church, his family, and—especially—his...
My Wavering Christianity
There’s a popular quote that says something to the effect of, “A man’s character is proven when no one’s watching…” (I’m paraphrasing dramatically of course). And while this saying is prevalent in learning and becoming a good, sound person, I can’t help but apply its meaning directly to my own Christianity. Am I a Christian all the time or only when I’m being watched and/or presenting myself to...
The Friend Zone
There is a place—a treacherous place—where the soul is sucked dry and the will to live is exhausted beyond comprehension. I’m talking about a place that breaks a man’s wits into kindling and moves a woman to deeply consider the nunnery. I speak of a barren waste of space that no right-minded person would willingly go, yet there it remains—thriving and populated to its brim. This place of which I...
The One (by Cobo Copeland)
Today marks the second installment of my round of guest posts. Each post is centered on something the author has learned from relationships. This post is extra special because it comes from my own brother, Cobo. Cobo doesn’t believe in social media, so leave your comments for him here on Mad to Love. You can follow me on Twitter here. As always, thank you so much for reading. -Cory
I...
The Mailbag
Firstly, I want to thank all of those who sent in questions for this week’s mailbag. I’m going to try to do these every other week until y’all get sick of them, so if you have questions on relationship, God, life, love…anything, I’ll do my best to answer them. I don’t have all the answers, but I’ve experienced enough to give a small measure of guidance.
If you’d like to submit a question(s), send...
Know When it's a "No"
Excuses come in all shapes and sizes…just like the people who give them. And when the excuse is being utilized to end a relationship or to turn someone down, sometimes they aren’t exactly the whole truth, nothing but the truth, so help them God if you know what I mean.
So how do you know when that guy or girl you’re crushing on is telling you the truth about why they’re breaking up with you or...
It Takes Three
I wrote a book once; it was even published. This particular book covered the beginning, middle, and ultimate demise of my relationship and marriage to my ex-wife. The story wasn’t an easy one to tell, but I felt it was necessary so that others could side-step the mistakes I made in that relationship, and—hopefully—avoid an ending to their marriage or relationship like the brutal one I experienced....
"We Can't Go Home Again" (a review)
You should know something about me: I’m a snob. Not the, “You don’t shop at J. Crew? OMG, I can’t look at you anymore” kind of snob, but rather the kind of snob who doesn’t watch Glee, listen to The Fray, or read Twilight. If you like those things, more power to you. They just aren’t for me. I need more than that to be impressed. I like movies you’ve never heard of and music most of my generation...
Help →
My brother runs a nonprofit that helps the underprivileged help themselves. They need your help this Christmas season. Go to www.ArkansasMetro.org and order a t-shirt for $20. Not only will you guarantee a kid’s Christmas, but you’ll get an awesome t-shirt as well. Thanks, guys!
-Cory
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I’ll do my best to keep you entertained. I promise.
Thanks!
-C
Whoa, Girl
Ohhhh, females. I feel for you. I really do. This whole life is unfair to your kind. Not only do you have to deal with that vicious monster known as the “monthly visitor”, but you also have to do the whole pregnant thing; and just those things alone are enough to drive a sane person cray-cray. Men got off so easy. You have my sympathies. Really.
But that’s not all! We men get special...
Questions about your relationship?
Have a question (or 11) for next week’s Relationship Q&A on MadtoLove.com? Send ‘em my way at Questions@MadtoLove.com.
Thanks!
-C
Relationship Q&A
As I’ve said a time or two (or seven), I am not an educated man. I don’t have a degree in relationship counseling, or a degree at all for that matter. So the answers I provide to the questions below come from my years of watching—and experiencing—failed relationships, and the simple observation of the human condition. I’m not a professional therapist, and probably never will be—although Dr. Cory...
Your Questions
I’m wanting to do a Q&A on relationships for tomorrow’s post. To do so, I need questions to answer. This is where you come in.
Send me any and all questions you have about relationships, and I’ll pick a few to answer in tomorrow’s post.
Email your questions to: Cory.Copeland@gmail.com
Thanks!
-C
November 2011
14 posts
He's Just Not That Into You...Seriously
We’ve all been in that awkward place. The one where we’re crushing hardcore on someone, but aren’t really sure if they’re putting out the same vibe. It can be confusing—and especially for females. Why? Because most guys are idiots (this writer included) who either don’t know what they want so they don’t know how to go about deciding, or know what they want—or don’t want—and are too cowardly to...
Go Your Own Way
Can you help me out with something? I’m trying to figure out who it is that decides what’s acceptable in society. Is it a single person, or is it a group of people like in that movie, The Skulls (don’t shake your head at me; you watched it too. Joshua Jackson? Paul Walker? C’mon)? I need to know this because whoever it is making these decisions for society deserves a swift punch to the throat. And...