Every so often, when a young man is out and about, he’ll come across a certain type of young lady. Now, this type of female is a special breed. She isn’t born this way, but through different circumstances and—most likely—disappointments, she morphs into “that” girl. Odds are, you know who I’m referring to.

She’s the one that wants a man but can’t help driving them away. She doesn’t mean to; she just does. She does this simply because she isn’t very self-aware of how she is or what she does (or maybe she is and just doesn’t care…?). Regardless, it’s best to recognize the signs of being a “that” girl, so that if you are wanting to attract a man, you aren’t driving him/them away unknowingly.

With that in mind, I’ve picked out five common mistakes “that” girl makes in her pursuit of the opposite sex. Take them literally if you wish; I’m simply speaking from a place of experience after dealing with a number of these young ladies in the past.

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Behold, Five Ways to Not be “That” Girl.

Enjoy!

Don’t Call and/or Text 47 Consecutive Times Hoping for a Response
Just like most of my “advice”, this one should come with a big ol’ “DUH!” sign hanging around its neck. And yet, there are certain young ladies who think that if they call or text enough times, a fella WILL have to respond eventually. They are wrong. Oh, so wrong.
Not only does the chick look psycho in a major way, but the guy will see them as extremely high maintenance, and I can’t name five guys who want to put up with a high maintenance woman.
But then again, what do I know? (Answer: EVERYTHING!) (Not really……)

Don’t Assume Anything
Most guys are slow moving creatures when it comes romance and relationships (my getting married at 19 after dating for four months not-with-standing), so when a girl posts the status/tweet, “oMg, i DoNe FoUnD tHe OnE aNd Am In LoOoOoOoOoVe!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!” after a single, solitary date, a guy is most likely going to get freaked out only a lot of bit.
How to avoid this? Don’t assume anything—good or bad. Go only by what he tells you he’s feeling. Don’t assume he’s automatically in love with you just because he smiled at you and opened your door. It’s likely he’s just a gentleman or he’s read my guide on treating women right. Either one…

Don’t Show Up Uninvited
Again, “DUH!” right? But you’d be surprised how many girls think the old saying “out of sight, out of mind” makes them think they should show up wherever their crush is, whether they’re invited or not.
Not only does this tiptoe right up to the crazy stalker line, but it makes a guy feel pretty uneasy to know that this girl he’s only just started talking to feels it’s okay to invade his space without a specific invite.
Save yourself some embarrassment and wait for him to ask you to come along rather than show up unannounced.

Don’t Try to Make Him Jealous
This piece of advice should transcend the entirety of a relationship, but it is especially true at the beginning.
I’ve never met a single man that enjoys being made jealous. So if you two just started getting to know each other, do not try to make him jealous to try and get his attention. It will not work. I can’t say that any more plainly.
Making a guy jealous—or at least trying to—will only backfire, leaving you feeling silly while crying and snotting into a bowl of Ben & Jerry’s Chunky Monkey as Kelly Clarkson’s “Since U Been Gone” wails in the background.

Don’t Fish for Compliments
This is one of the most annoying things women—and men—can do. They either went through special trouble to look nice and want you to notice it, or they’re insecure about something so they degrade themselves, hoping their crush will admonish them and compliment them until they’re blue in the face.
If you think you look nice, just wait for the compliment. If you’re dating a guy who is worth anything at all, he’ll compliment you.
If you’re insecure about something, don’t insult yourself and hope your boy disagrees with you. That’s annoying and shows a lack of confidence. And you know something…nothing is sexier than a girl with confidence.
If you ARE going to fish for compliments, at least be creative. “Watch me fight this bear while wearing heels!” or “Isn’t it awesome that I caught this fish with my bare hands?!”

So there you have it: five easy tips to follow so you’re not “that” girl. Keep yourself from doing these things, and getting someone to return your calls and/or texts will be much, much, much easier. If not, that’s what you get for listening to the guy who can’t seem to find peace about the One Tree Hill ending and may or may not cry himself to sleep over it every night.

And if you think I was unfair to women in this post and feel like burning me at the stake, just wait until Friday when I write on “Don’t be ‘That’ Guy”.

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